性爱之后

探讨两性问题十分好的影片，片中的主人公都因为自己被社会上的偏见思维所困挠：
        第一对，男方因为婚姻中的男人责任比较重，抱怨男女不平等，而不愿意与女方进入稳定关系，而只承认性伙伴，但依然希望女方先说爱自己，而女方也不说，最后还是男的妥协了，先表白；
                所以女方你也可以大胆的追呀！
        第二对，因为内心恐同，而不愿意承认自己性取向的男孩，演员是，无耻之徒里的小米奇，演得不错，内心恐惧，又迷惑的无助，打动我了！
                所以不要在恐同了，恐同很可能是深柜，it is ok to be gay!
        第三对，母亲因为女儿的性行为而担心，其实两个孩子什么都知道，还大胆谈论自己的往事；世代不同了；
                所以父母不要总认为孩子是你眼中的那个纯洁天使！
        第四对，都想撇清自己是gay,一方是自己心里早知道但怕别人知道，而另方确实不是但喜欢对方带给自己的高潮快感！
                所以有同性性行为不一定是gay！
        第五对， 母亲想向子女讲诉父母亲年轻时候的故事，但又害怕子女引以为耻，因为他们相识性派对，还玩过换妻和群交；
                所以子女也不要认为父母是什么楷模榜样；
        第六对，瘦长的摇滚歌手总向橄榄球教练男友说明自己是同志关系中男性一方，而男友认为，没有必要考虑别人怎么分，都是男人，只要相爱；
                所以不要标签化，说同志关系中总有一方担任女性角色！
        第七对，放不下前夫的妻子，再次与前夫偷情，想把两人的问题再次摊开来说明白，但是前夫依然为自己花心的行为辩解，并且质问前妻为什么欺骗现在的男友与自己上床；
                
        第八对，一次随意的性后，两人才发现连名字都不知道，在随后的交谈中，女方大方承认自己是应召女郎；而后又自己12岁上过自己叔叔，男的无法接受，然后崩溃，最后戏剧般的转折;
                

内容全，男男女女的都有，各个年龄段的都有，各个职业的，跨越人种的，超越国籍的，几小段的故事。可惜讨论的都是些残羹冷炙，没新的东西，拿袋饼干边吃边看吧

一部无意中在暴风影音看到的推荐，看了几个小故事，不错的对话。想起一些年少轻狂经历的种种。每个人心目中都有深藏的秘密，无法表述，无法倾诉，只有偶尔才在心底发现那些已经泛黄的回忆。

"Love is not negotiable.
Love is a guessing game,
and that’s the beauty of it.

There are no guarantees.
It’s like diving into a pool of water
without knowing if its shallow or deep
and sure [yeah] if its shallow you end up
hurt and paralyzed from the neck down,
but if it's deep…
[you know] it's a leap of faith…
its like throwing yourself out there without
any guarantees, and that’s what life’s about.

You know those carnival games,
you know how some of them are really hard to win
and those that are super easy and everyone wins
well… that’s the difference between love and sex
Sex is the game where everyone wins a little prize
and no one goes home a loser
and Love is the game that’s really hard to win.
but if you do and you get to take home that
life size stuffed rhinoceros
and it feels a whole lot better than taking
home that little shitty plastic key chain."

What is love? Who can specify it?
Except falling in love at the first sight, does love exist in other forms?
Maybe it's when love exists in other forms that it's so difficult for us to admit or to know that we love the other.

Sex and love are separable, but sex and love are blended
for the people in the stories of this movie. That's why after sex they
argued or talked so much.

The old couple wanted so much to tell their happy and wild sex they had in their younger days to their children, but they were afraid their children wouldn't be able to accpept it. They weren't sure how their children would react to it. We, as children, date, fool around, have sex behind parents. The experiences may be good, or bad. But whether it's good or bad, we want so much to share them with our parents just as the old couple wanted to share with their children. If it's good, we want to share the happiness with them; if it's bad, we wish we could turn to them for company.

But we dare not to tell them. We conceal the experiences we care most from the ones whom we want to confide to most. We and our parents cannot open our hearts to each other. Who should be blamed for this? Why can't we take sex naturally and admit all types of sex? We all hate to be constrained by moral rules and social codes, but they are made by us. Why we human beings torture ourselves?

其实本片是看似有点色，但是挺严肃的探讨性的电影。但可惜的是，美国人的性观念，距离我们中国人实在太远了。
不要说同性恋或性派对，就是看两个人刚云雨之后，还要拼命反驳我们没有爱情，极力否定我对你有感觉，就让我不可理解。性，应该是两个人爱到浓时，无声胜有声的感情升华，那才是美好美妙的，而不是纯动物性的发泄。我觉得好莱坞电影总在传导少年破处还很酷的理念，实在不可理喻，但又客观存在。
感觉本片对性的探讨还仅限于表面，从不同人的侧面来表现人对性、爱的观点，但只是一种反映缺乏深度的思考。

完事过后，时间指向午夜
也就是通常所说的零点
你终于抽完了一根不能说短的香烟
疲倦，和着不能说出的疲倦
在你的脸上交替变幻

秒针小心翼翼地指向新一点
仿佛你不再属于它们的时间
你眨了一下眼，又眨了一下眼
灯光在窗外一闪而过
黑暗中一种浸泡了的寂静

完事过后，就那么孤单的一秒
你总是迫不及待地从床上跳了下来
在狭小的房间里四处走走看看
空气里全是潮湿的云的味道
你找不到那个一开始就躲起来的

人。就不要去接近那面镜子
它比你想象的更要脆弱
有人说：我们的灵魂会因此变得异常薄
许多次，我光着身子坐在它的前面
有一次，我竟然看见眼前的肉体消失

完事过后，只剩下一些冰冷的液体
或许，它比我们更加接近现实
更加熟悉每一种沐浴露的香味
那个时候我们似乎走得更远了
当它的冰冷停留在你刚刚愈合的身体

外面。夜色抚平了一切
我终于接受了自己偶尔不在的某种事实
在这一秒里我似乎过了很多世
而你也刚巧是赶到了那儿
没有早一步，也没有晚一步……

PS：末两句出自于张爱玲的《爱》